A FATHER’S SINCERE ADVISE TO HIS DAUGHTER WHO’S GETTING MARRIED
My Daughter, now you will stop bearing my name. You will be happily married to the man you love. Don’t miss me because I have fulfilled my purpose, it is now time for you to start fulfilling yours.
From your childhood, I have raised you well by the grace of God but before you say “I Do”, there are few things I need to tell you about living with a man and being married…
Do you remember when you wrote your WAEC and JAMB exams? You came to me and I gave you N20,000 for the registration? Well, even though I gave it to you, the money was not mine. I know you always thought I paid the fees. The truth is, I was broke that period…but your mother gave me the money. She could have given it to you but she decided to give it to me to give to you. That is the right thing.
Support your husband. Some times things may get tough; not only money, it could be in any other area. He will be frustrated. Even though he acts tough, in his mind he has fears… he fear you may not value him anymore because he has a temporary set back on some issues.
That is the time to get behind him and support him. The best way to show your husband you love him is to respect him! You may argue with him, you may disagree but at the end of the day, let him know he has your respect.
Do you remember the day I screamed at your mother? What did she do? She was quiet! My daughter learn to be quiet sometimes when your husband is angry. When one person is hot, the other should be cool. If you claim right with your husband, small issues can become very big and destroy your marriage.
There was a day your mum saw me touching a woman’s hand affectionately. I was lust after that woman but I was not having an affair with her. When she saw us… she didn’t fight the lady, she quietly left. I was afraid of going home because all hell may break lose. But when I got home she said nothing. She served me my food. Guilt was taking control over me. I had to tell your mum the truth that she is just a friend and nothing more. I stopped seeing that woman.
Sometimes silence brings better solution than fight. Forget those romantic novels you read while you were 21. Remember those Indian and American love movies? Also remember those too sweet Nollywood films on African magic? Forget them! Don’t expect your married life to be that way. Life is different from fiction.